Psychologyspeaking topic
The Michelangelo effect: the right partner, like a sculptor freeing the statue from the marble, shapes you into the person you want to become. Is a relationship 'good' because it makes you happy, or because it moves you closer to your ideal self?
— the Michelangelo phenomenon (Rusbult et al.)
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Set the timer (5-30 min), take 20 seconds of prep if you like, start talking. Jot your thoughts onto the sticky-note board.
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